I received an email from a reader regarding a recent column where I wrote that a fear of success could be a fear of being ‘found out’ as a fraud — whether you earned the success or not. The writer … Continue reading →

I appreciate it when people respond to these columns. It’s nice to know that somebody’s on the other end of this keyboard. In a recent article I reiterated the fact that addictions to drugs, alcohol or whatever have been falsely … Continue reading →

I’ve encountered several clients, and even friends, who report that certain noises make them feel uncomfortable and angry. A bit of research introduced me to the term, misophonia; a debilitating situation where a ‘trigger stimulus’ (some sort of sound) becomes … Continue reading →

Clients often tell me about neighbors who drop-in uninvited. Or children (or worse yet, adults) who can’t keep their hands off of your property. Do you have friends who call and expect you to be available to talk — with … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, My ‘new age’ friends are always telling me to ‘Go with my feelings and say what I feel.’ But is it advisable to just blurt out whatever pops into your head — right, wrong or indifferent? Dear … Continue reading →

I often get questions about personal growth and how it changes relationships with friends, romantic partners and family. When people improve themselves in ways that increase their self-esteem and confidence, their relationships also change. Every person plays a role in … Continue reading →

Several readers have asked me to clarify the difference between short-term compromise and all-out self-sacrifice. More than one Life’s a Beach! column has emphasized that the latter should never be part of a marriage or any partnered relationship. A short-term … Continue reading →

A reader sent me a comment about one of my columns where I suggested that the biggest mistake people make is to try to change others. She agrees that the choice of what to think and do will always be … Continue reading →

Occasionally, a parent or a spouse will tell me that their child or partner ‘needs help.’ I ask them why they think that, and they either don’t answer me, or they say that they can’t get their loved one to … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, I’ve been depressed for a while now. My doctor wrote me a prescription, and says my depression is a disease. But I feel that the problem is more emotional than medical. I hate the way the pills … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, I read your column every week, and I like what you say. But sometimes, when I try to make suggestions to my husband or my adult children, it turns into an unpleasant ‘heated discussion.’ I am truly … Continue reading →

Few things are more annoying than being nagged (except perhaps being accused of it). Nagging comes from anxiety over the false belief that repetition creates motivation. It never does, and in fact, it lowers respect and reveals weakness by implying, … Continue reading →