When you feel an emotion, especially a troubling one, write it down. This will make you identify what the emotion actually is. Then, look at the emotion as a belief. What belief does the emotion reflect? Is the belief true … Continue reading →

When it comes to work, we usually think of two contexts: Working for yourself; and working for another. In reality, the proper motivation is to work for yourself at all times. The premise of work is that the activity is … Continue reading →

“Closure” is a vague but popular concept. On the surface it means seeking a neat, painless ending–or hoping for the cool, detached perspective of time which cannot be rushed. Seeking closure usually doesn’t get you what you want. Closure is … Continue reading →

People who can’t be criticized–and who react with great hostility at any hint of criticism–are revealing something important about themselves. They reveal that they don’t hold their convictions and viewpoints about various matters through carefully reasoned out, fact-based judgments. Instead, … Continue reading →

A crisis of confidence is not so much a time to pause and reflect as it is a time to plan rational action–and to remind yourself of what have done well in the past. Low confidence isn’t so much an … Continue reading →

Religion is probably the number one cause of anxiety. Think about what religion emphasizes: What you don’t have control over, and how you have to surrender your will, your mind, your “fate” to a higher power or other, often unnamed … Continue reading →

It’s one thing to compete with others, and another to be inspired by them. It’s one thing to think: “She’s done this well. I have to do better.” It’s another to think: “She did that well. If she can do … Continue reading →

If you love someone, you love someone as they are. If you find them not yet ready for what you envision in a relationship, then so be it. If you can love him as he IS NOW, then the green … Continue reading →

There’s a difference between a “can do” attitude and a “must do” attitude. The can do attitude is based on confidence, competence and realism blended with optimism. The must do attitude is based on anxiety, resentment and a false belief … Continue reading →

If it’s true that chance favors the prepared, then it’s equally true that preparation is everything. Preparation centers on your mind. You keep your mind working through lifelong thought. It’s never too late to start, but you have to maintain … Continue reading →

When we say someone has an “inflated” sense of himself, we’re really saying that he’s inaccurate. In other words, he sees himself as having virtues that he does not have; or, he sees himself as having more virtues than he … Continue reading →

There are countless ways to say NO. But NO is still NO. NO is the absence of yes. Keep this in mind when dealing with others. Many don’t want to say no; they’re not comfortable with it. They mean NO, … Continue reading →