I encounter many people who admit to resentful feelings and anger toward friends and family members. Almost inevitably, these feelings end up stemming from a fear of confrontation. We’ve been so brainwashed into always being “nice” that emotions and bitterness … Continue reading
Regular readers of this column know that I have written over and over that love should not be sacrifice. When you love someone, you want them to be happy. When someone loves you in a healthy way, you want them … Continue reading
It seems that no sooner did it start, that it’s finished – and back-to-school is just around the corner! In spite of the summer beach pleasures, many parents will face issues with their kids involving academics, focus and concentration. Will … Continue reading
A reader asks if it’s possible to be just friends with somebody to whom you are attracted romantically, even if they don’t feel the same way. She goes on to ask if that can also apply to an ex-spouse or … Continue reading
My childhood memories always include thoughts of my father. Right up until he passed away a few years ago, he was active and alert; cutting the grass weekly, keeping-up the house and expertly managing his computer. When clients ask me … Continue reading
I see many examples of spouses and partners who endure consistent and systematic meanness from their significant others. This pattern is more prevalent than you might think, and the clinical term for it is emotional abuse. There are a number … Continue reading
It’s easy to lose perspective when you are experiencing doubts about your relationship. But sometimes a temporary setback or bad mood can be eradicated by taking a step back from the day-to-day and asking yourself one, basic question: “Does my … Continue reading
A Delaware Coast Press reader writes that he and his wife recently retired to a beautiful waterfront area near the beach. But in spite of that, he is not happy. It doesn’t have to do with anything specific; things are … Continue reading
The Cape Region is a prime spot for charities, volunteering, and the like. But it’s important to remember that you should first nurture your sense of self before you donate your time or money to the many causes out there. … Continue reading
A visitor to my website writes that he has fallen in love with a woman who is fourteen years his senior. He tells me that he generally goes for people his own age, but that he’s never felt so good … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: My husband disagrees with everything. If I say the sky is blue, he will engage me in a battle over “how blue.” If a friend gets a new car, he’ll launch into a lecture — in front … Continue reading
In these days of political squabbles where everybody seems to have an opinion, the saying, “Let’s just agree to disagree” appears to be a reasonable statement. But in fact, one is “agreeing” to disown, or renounce, what they believe. From … Continue reading