A reader asks if it’s possible to be just friends with somebody to whom you are attracted romantically, even if they don’t feel the same way. She goes on to ask if that can also apply to an ex-spouse or … Continue reading
My childhood memories always include thoughts of my father. Right up until he passed away a few years ago, he was active and alert; cutting the grass weekly, keeping-up the house and expertly managing his computer. When clients ask me … Continue reading
I see many examples of spouses and partners who endure consistent and systematic meanness from their significant others. This pattern is more prevalent than you might think, and the clinical term for it is emotional abuse. There are a number … Continue reading
It’s easy to lose perspective when you are experiencing doubts about your relationship. But sometimes a temporary setback or bad mood can be eradicated by taking a step back from the day-to-day and asking yourself one, basic question: “Does my … Continue reading
A Delaware Coast Press reader writes that he and his wife recently retired to a beautiful waterfront area near the beach. But in spite of that, he is not happy. It doesn’t have to do with anything specific; things are … Continue reading
The Cape Region is a prime spot for charities, volunteering, and the like. But it’s important to remember that you should first nurture your sense of self before you donate your time or money to the many causes out there. … Continue reading
A visitor to my website writes that he has fallen in love with a woman who is fourteen years his senior. He tells me that he generally goes for people his own age, but that he’s never felt so good … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: My husband disagrees with everything. If I say the sky is blue, he will engage me in a battle over “how blue.” If a friend gets a new car, he’ll launch into a lecture — in front … Continue reading
In these days of political squabbles where everybody seems to have an opinion, the saying, “Let’s just agree to disagree” appears to be a reasonable statement. But in fact, one is “agreeing” to disown, or renounce, what they believe. From … Continue reading
After the release of my third book, “Bad Therapy, Good Therapy (and How to Tell the Difference),” I took particular interest in columnist Robert Fulford’s article in Canada’s Globe and Mail, where he coined the phrase, “To kill a Critic: … Continue reading
A Coast Press reader writes, “I was serving a guest in a fast-food restaurant where I work. As I prepared his food, he smilingly said, ‘Take my advice…’ and proceeded to lecture me about changing my gloves to protect gluten-intolerant … Continue reading
People often ask me why they care so much for the opinions of other people. They say that they are anxious about others’ opinions and judgments. Interestingly, all these people want to get rid of that feeling. We become “people … Continue reading