A mother of three writes, “I’ve tried to impress on my children that lying is more than just ‘bad’ or a ‘sin,’ and that the long-term effect of lying can be stressful and unhealthy. They asked me if it was … Continue reading
Category: Life’s a Beach!
ASK For What You Want (DE Wave)
One of the biggest impediments to human associations is the unwillingness to say what you think and ask for what you want. Note the word “ask”; none of us are entitled to something from another person simply because we want … Continue reading
Vacation Mindset Syndrome (DE Coast Press)
Well, it’s that time again! Every year for the past 9 years that I’ve had the pleasure of writing for this newspaper, I receive multiple emails asking me to reprint this article. The beginning of August seems like the perfect … Continue reading
Loss Hurts, But It Can Also be Opportunity (DE Wave)
It’s hard to believe that it’s only a few weeks until Labor Day! One of the silver linings to that otherwise dark cloud is the Labor Day Jazz Funeral on the Bethany Beach boardwalk. The New Orleans-style parade lays the … Continue reading
The Folly of Deceit (DE Coast Press)
Many of us tell lies at one time or another. Most likely they’re little white lies to spare somebody’s feelings, or to get out of some commitment that we probably should never have made. The majority of people feel guilty … Continue reading
Why “Needy” People Cling (DE Wave)
People I speak to in my office will occasionally describe a significant person in their life (or even themselves) as clingy, or needy, in the emotional sense. Indeed, there are times when a partner or potential partner can cross that … Continue reading
Coping With Bad Service (DE Coast Press)
In the midst of the summer season, many of us will have increased interaction with clerks in stores and servers in restaurants. Most of us know how to conduct ourselves in public, but I often hear about people who complain … Continue reading
Be Your Own Boss (DE Wave)
According to a study done by LinkedIn.com, the #1 reason that three-quarters of employees dislike or hate their jobs is … the boss. But let’s take a closer look: If you dislike your boss because he or she has undesirable … Continue reading
Bad Therapy: Worse Than No Therapy? You Bet! (DE Coast Press)
People often ask me how they can find an effective therapist in their area. Of course this presents a great opportunity to promote my most recent book, “Bad Therapy, Good Therapy (And How to Tell the Difference).” Short of ending … Continue reading
Afraid to Fly? (DE Wave)
People ask me all the time about the fear of flying. They usually follow it up by stating that without flying they would never go anywhere interesting. Then they ask me what to do. Everything has a price. A candy … Continue reading
Is All Conflict Bad? (DE Coast Press)
Many people are under the impression that they’re avoiding trouble in their relationships by not fighting. They mistakenly assume that the absence of fighting – or some disagreement – is an indication that the relationship is healthy. But that assumption … Continue reading
The Holy Grail of Retirement (DE Wave)
“Ahh, retirement—no more commute, no more responsibilities. I can’t wait!” The holy grail of retirement is the reward for a lifetime of accomplishment and faithful employment. But for some people it ends up not living up to all it’s supposed … Continue reading