The idea of being abandoned, in just about any context, is awful. And interestingly enough, it ends up being a fairly common topic of conversation in my office. Let’s take a closer look: When therapists speak of “abandonment issues”, they’re … Continue reading
By the time you read this, the final notes of this year’s Rehoboth Beach Jazz Festival will have faded away. Why does music have such a magnetic effect on us? From the amateur flailings of semi-sober karaoke all the way … Continue reading
There are all kinds of myths about therapy. Many have been perpetrated by all that feel-good nonsense on daytime TV where unwitting victims have been led to believe that their therapy visit will be an instant cure for whatever ails … Continue reading
After practicing psychotherapy professionally for over 30 years, one can’t help but notice patterns. Problems may take different forms, but the core issues often fall into just a few categories. Life doesn’t need to be as hard as some people … Continue reading
I often encounter people who are clearly at war with food. They announce proudly, “I stay away from pizza”, or “I would never eat fried chicken”, or “No way — no dessert for me … not ever!” Of course, each … Continue reading
I received an email from a reader who tells me that her boyfriend expresses no preferences or opinions regarding pretty much anything. She’s beginning to feel resentful about it, and asks if it’s wrong to resent a love interest who … Continue reading
A Delaware Wave reader emails about a sticky situation: She and her husband are empty nesters, both with professional careers. Her profession in the arts is unstable by nature, and the loss of that job is imminent. Her husband is … Continue reading
For years, I’ve recommended that people keep a journal. Not just people in crisis, but everyone. It’s one of the hardest things to motivate somebody to do, and yet once done, everyone tells me that it’s amazingly enlightening and effective. … Continue reading
Couples therapy can be stressful for everyone involved. One of the questions that parents often ask me is whether it’s right or wrong to stay together solely for the sake of the children. Their premise is that their primary obligation … Continue reading
I’ve written in the past about how some aging parents can become manipulative; appearing to be more “helpless” than they actually are. Interestingly, reader responses to those articles were 100% in agreement. But many questioned how they could verbally approach … Continue reading
Most of us remember the childhood thrill of going on vacation. The preparation, counting the days — and the getting up at 3 or 4 in the morning to leave. Through the fog of fitful backseat dozing, I remember dragging … Continue reading
My experience has shown over and over that it’s never a good idea to mix business with friendship. It may sound good on paper to go into business with, or to employ (or be employed by) your friend, but those … Continue reading