Avoiding confrontation at any cost is not the way to run a relationship. People tell me all the time about how their spouse/partner does things that bother them. I invariably ask: “Why are you telling me and not him (her)?” … Continue reading
Writing at Psychology Today, psychotherapist Amy Morin offers “10 Reasons American Teens Are More Anxious Than Ever”. But let’s take a closer look: Do we actually know teens are more anxious than ever? And more anxious compared to when? Like … Continue reading
Memory problems are frustrating. People joke about “senior moments” while others worry about the possibility of dementia. Dementia is actually a disease of the brain, but normal memory ultimately has more to do with how you manage (or don’t manage) … Continue reading
People often tell me that they feel like they’re never going to get caught up. They’re always worrying about how (and when) they’re going to achieve all the goals they’ve set for themselves. When it comes to goal setting, it … Continue reading
Pop psychology loves to tout psychotherapy as “dealing with the past.” I suspect that at least part of that comes from the feel-good prattle that pervades the vast wasteland of daytime TV, including shows like Oprah and Ellen. But when … Continue reading
People often ask me to define cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) in simple terms. A great example of CBT in action comes from an unlikely source: Chef Robert Irvine’s Food Network series, Restaurant Impossible. FoodTV.com says that, “Turning around a failing … Continue reading
According to a study done by LinkedIn.com, three-quarters of employees dislike or hate their jobs because of the boss. That might make for great cartoons on Facebook, but let’s take a closer look: If you dislike your boss because he … Continue reading
People ask me all the time about the fear of flying. They usually follow it up by stating that without flying they would never go anywhere interesting. Then they ask me what to do. Under normal circumstances, that can be … Continue reading
I recently posted a Peanuts cartoon on Facebook that said: “Worrying won’t stop the bad stuff from happening … it just stops you from enjoying the good.” The comments I received were even more interesting, and most boiled down to, … Continue reading
We hear a lot about cyberbullying these days. It’s basically bullying through electronic means, e.g., Facebook, texts, IMs, email, etc. Alarmists lead us to believe that cyberbullying is fundamentally different from classic “playground” bullying. But is that true? The premise … Continue reading
A reader writes that her best friend is unhappy in her marriage. “It really pains me to see her this way. I think she’s looking for someone to tell her to leave him. Is it my place to do this? … Continue reading
So many people say to me, “Why is it that what I can’t have always seems more appealing than what I can have?” The answer is easy: Wanting what you can’t have is the easy way out. In other words, … Continue reading