People often ask me about the virtue of loyalty. The mental health profession generally falls into line behind widely accepted virtues as a measure of mental health, so is loyalty in fact healthy, wise and good? Many people equate loyalty … Continue reading
Category: Life’s a Beach!
When Do Grown Kids’ Privileges Expire?
A Coast Press reader writes, “I’m hoping you can help out with my 27-year-old son. He was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) back in high school, and nothing has been the same since. He’s just an older version … Continue reading
Rationalizing a Visit to the Big & Tall Shop
As the summer season gets into high gear, some of us will celebrate by eating anything we want. And that’s apparently OK – if the eating takes place under certain conditions. Today we will itemize and analyze six of these … Continue reading
Why Some People Are Indecisive
I’ve always liked the old proverb, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.” I always want to follow it up with something like, “So you’d better be ready for whatever might be down that … Continue reading
Can You End the Pain with “Closure”?
I received an anxious email from a reader who is seeking “closure” from his girlfriend who recently dumped him. Closure is a vague but popular concept that means seeking a neat, painless ending along with the cool, detached perspective of … Continue reading
For Serenity: Turn Off TV News!
It amazes me how people act like smart consumers in some situations, and like helpless pawns in others. Consider the way most of us handle the news — especially television news. I don’t care which news station you watch; emotionally … Continue reading
How much is your time worth?
Well, it’s that time again! Flowers are blooming, temps are moderating, and the parking meters are hungry. Barely a day goes by that somebody isn’t grousing about those infernal little machines. But I had an experience last season that added … Continue reading
Perspective is Everything
Dear Dr. Hurd, My sister is a Catholic. Several years ago she married a wonderful man who happens to be Jewish. They have been very happy — up until now. She is pregnant, and they’ve started to argue over the … Continue reading
Is Love Better the Second Time Around?
Mothers’ Day and everything that goes with it gets me thinking about couples and how relationships can change as we age. For example, people often ask me if older widowed people should remarry. The obvious answer is, of course, yes … Continue reading
When Does Your Kid Become an Adult?
As the summer approaches, opportunities arise to reconnect with children who’ve been living away from home — many for the first time. Although it’s reasonable to expect it to be a happy experience, it can be full of challenges as … Continue reading
Grease the wheels with a little respect
It’s a rare day when social media is not sputtering over horror stories about bad experiences with service providers. Since it’s my job to peek behind the proverbial curtain, when I look closer at some of the individual situations, sure … Continue reading
Why We Turn Life Problems Into Emotional “Diseases”
A friend recently told me about an experience she had at a local fast-food eatery. While standing in line, she was engaged in conversation with an elderly friend who was seated. Their voices were somewhat raised due to the noise … Continue reading