People often tell me that they feel used because someone gets something out of being with them. But wait … there’s nothing wrong with self-interest! Every relationship, whether business or personal, needs to be mutually beneficial. However, choosing to intentionally … Continue reading
The subject of addiction has been perpetually bogged down in inane political correctness and “feel-good” labels. But no matter how you label it, America is an addictive society. My definition of addiction has grown out of almost 40 years of … Continue reading
Depression, anxiety and anger management get a lot of press, but what about bitterness? Things seem to be looking up for the bitter among us: The American Psychiatric Association (APA) has considered classifying bitterness as a mental disorder. A statistic … Continue reading
The news from some big cities regarding rampant shoplifting is disturbing – even to the point where major stores are closing for good in certain areas. But stealing has been around for a long time, and our seemingly safe Cape … Continue reading
When facing an important decision about relationships and other personal issues, it’s often best to consider your own advice first. After all, who’s better suited to know what’s right for you than … you? Recently, I spoke with a friend … Continue reading
Memory problems are frustrating. People joke about “senior moments” while others worry about the possibility of dementia. Dementia is actually a disease of the brain, but normal memory ultimately has more to do with how you manage (or don’t manage) … Continue reading
People sometimes ask me if clients lie to helping professionals. Though it seems kind of self-defeating — considering they’re paying for the sessions — I’ll admit that I’ve gotten pretty good at figuring out when somebody’s not telling the truth. … Continue reading
I wrote a column recently where I suggested that how you feel is determined by how you think. A Delaware Wave reader emailed; asking if that concept doesn’t open the door to rationalization and fooling yourself. She wrote: “I have … Continue reading
I’ve always liked the old proverb, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.” And I always follow it up with something like, “So you’d better be ready for whatever might be down that road.” … Continue reading
Far from being something mysterious, the power of suggestion is often a part of everyday life. For example, let’s say you mistakenly drink a caffeinated beverage close to bedtime, but don’t realize it until the next day. You’re surprised that … Continue reading
From time to time clients will tell me that they like to read peppy little affirmations first thing in the morning. But interestingly enough, others tell me that these fluffy, hyperbolic one-size-fits-all sentences feel like nothing more than false hype … Continue reading
A Delaware Wave reader asks if it’s possible to be just friends with somebody to whom you are attracted romantically, even if they don’t feel the same way. She goes on to ask if that can also apply to an … Continue reading