Dear Dr. Hurd, I am a straight male who is attracted to a woman who is bisexual. She is also attracted to me. I want a committed, monogamous relationship, but am uneasy about making such a commitment with her because … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd: My brother is 32. He has never held a job a job for longer than a couple of weeks and he, his wife and daughter live with our mother. They scrape by on disability checks, food stamps … Continue reading →

Do you have a neighbor who ‘drops in,’ uninvited? Do you know a child (or an adult, for that matter) who can’t keep her hands off of your property? Do you have friends who call and expect you to be … Continue reading →

People often tell me that they don’t ‘feel motivated’ to do this, that or the other thing. Motivation is a sense of conviction that you have a good reason to do something. And that reason must be connected in some … Continue reading →

Resentful feelings and anger towards friends and family members very often stem from a fear of confrontation. We’ve been so brainwashed into always being ‘nice’ that we can allow emotions and bitterness to build up and erupt into major conflicts … Continue reading →

Barely a day goes by that we don’t hear some ‘expert’ refer to alcohol and drug abuse problems as medical diseases. Many qualified professionals disagree, however. They suggest that false beliefs — not physical maladies — play a primary role … Continue reading →

One of my favorite ‘in-season’ pastimes is to stroll the boardwalk or the beach and watch people having fun. Though many have gone to considerable expense to travel (or buy a vacation home) here, their laughter and smiles always make … Continue reading →

People — divorced, widowed or perpetually single — ask me how they can find (and keep) a romantic relationship. What is it that prevents a person from finding the love they want? The answer usually boils down to a combination … Continue reading →

People often ask me if people lie to their therapists. Though it seems kind of self-defeating — considering they’re paying for the sessions — I will admit that I’ve gotten pretty good at figuring out when somebody is lying. Most … Continue reading →

A visitor to DrHurd.com writes, ‘My wife of two years goes out of her way to control me. Everything from constant phone calls asking where I am, to ordering me to go to sleep when it suits her or to … Continue reading →

Of all the things that people ask me about (both in and out of my office), marriage, relationships and commitment are always at the top of the list. And for good reason! Research published by Scientific American Mind shows that, … Continue reading →

Before you donate your time (or money) to the various charities and causes here at the beach, it’s important to nurture your own sense of self. To help others, you must first feel good about you.  Most of us are … Continue reading →