The essence of choice lies in thinking. No major choice, including a career choice, can be divorced from thought. You sit down and you make a pro’s and con’s list of your various alternatives and after exhausting all the factual … Continue reading
Don’t reward the wrong behavior–and don’t reward the wrong attitudes, either. To “reward” means to respond to something wrong or unhealthy by saying or doing something positive for the person who’s wrong. Don’t do it. Try to pay attention to … Continue reading
Honesty is a consequence of wanting the truth. One refuses to lie because one doesn’t want to dishonor the truth. Most are confused about this, and think that the purpose of honesty is to be fair to others. It is … Continue reading
Q: Considering the different degrees of lying, should you dissociate yourself with someone who white lies? My thought is the leap between white lying and all out major lies is very, very small. If a person will white lie to … Continue reading
Is lying a mental disorder–or a choice? Lying is essentially a choice. However, it can become so ingrained and automatic that it no longer functions in the person’s mind—nor seems to outsiders—as a conscious choice. But it still started as … Continue reading
Life isn’t just about rebellion or submission. There’s an alternative: It’s called thinking.
If you want loyalty from people, make sure to choose people who value the same things you do. People tend to be loyal to what matters to them. If you value the truth, and someone else values the truth, then … Continue reading
I don’t understand the term “loser.” Life is not something you win or lose at. It’s not a game of chance. It’s something that you either make the most of, or that you squander. It’s something that you either engage … Continue reading
Keeping your word matters to others, but even more to yourself. When you keep your word: Others will believe you; others will listen to you; others will help you in a crisis when you need their help; you can rest … Continue reading
“People who trust in themselves and in their own merits are, as it were, blinded by their own ‘I,’ and their hearts harden in sin.” –Pope Benedict XVI My reply: It takes an “I” to cure cancer, to engage in … Continue reading
“Everything happens for a reason” implies that Someone Else is governing all that happens in your life. However, choice is inescapable. It takes a choice to look at something as happening for a reason. Actually, it’s not that Someone Else … Continue reading
Don’t worry about hurting a loved one’s feelings. Worry about creating a web of deceit. Because when you lie or mislead to “spare another’s feelings” it has the same consequences as lying and misleading for any other reason. And don’t … Continue reading