Of all the subjects people talk about in my office, one of the most common is issues with (and questions about) relationships. Boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives and otherwise partnered couples sometimes tell me that they don’t feel ‘connected,’ or that … Continue reading
Author Archives: D3 Support
Don’t Forget the Future
People often ask: How much time is reasonable for me to focus on my past, in therapy or otherwise? The answer isn’t quantitative. The answer is simply: As much time as you need, in order to understand what went wrong, … Continue reading
What Compulsive Texters Are Avoiding
We keep hearing about transportation accidents — even fatalities — because people are compulsively texting. There’s something deeply wrong with a compulsive need to stay in touch. It suggests an unwillingness that has become an “inability” to be comfortable with … Continue reading
“Silence!” He Demands
The unemployment figure is down, slightly. Here’s a question: What about job creation? Private businesses create jobs, normally–but they’re not, now. Only the government is doing so. Isn’t that cause for concern? The economic recession may have bottomed out and, … Continue reading
Does Your Job Serve You–or the Other Way Around?
If you define yourself by your work, then you have reversed the order of things. You’re serving your career rather than having your career serve you. Even the simplest job exists to serve you–for income and, if possible, for fulfillment. … Continue reading
The Fish Rots From the Head Down
“There is a lot of disinformation about health insurance reform out there, spanning from control of personal finances to end of life care. These rumors often travel just below the surface via chain emails or through casual conversation. Since we … Continue reading
What About Next Time?
The fact that the dictator of North Korea wanted Bill Clinton to visit, in exchange for releasing hostages, shows that the United States matters to the dictator. The U.S. still has moral clout, in his eyes. The ex-President spent this … Continue reading
Anger Management
Anger means a response to objective injustice. There are small, medium and large injustices–so there are appropriate degrees of reaction for each. It’s not an injustice for someone to dislike you. It’s not an injustice for someone to think differently … Continue reading
Catching Up
People often tell me that they feel like they’re never going to get ‘caught up.’ They’re always worrying about how (and when) they’re going to achieve all the goals they’ve set for themselves. First of all, “catching up” is a … Continue reading
Ethics for the 21st Century
People talk about “giving” as if that’s the only way to contribute something. The giver who “gives selflessly, and gives what he doesn’t have” is considered the epitome of morality, while people who actually produce something of tangible value are … Continue reading
Will Obamacare Make Us a Nation of Paupers?
The government-run health-care system–which in the U.K. is believed to be the necessary institutional corollary to an inalienable right to health care–has pauperized the entire population. This is not to say that in every last case the treatment is bad: … Continue reading
Spontaneity
The great joy of spontaneity is not that it’s mindless. You’re able to be spontaneous because you already know, from self-awareness, what you want, and why. So when the moment comes–you seize it! Spontaneity is for thinkers.