A reader emails that she doesn’t get the idea of gift giving for the sake of gift giving, or just to not look bad in front of others. She’s referring to Black Friday, and goes on to say that people … Continue reading
Recently, several readers have asked if I’ve written anything on children and divorce. A few years back, I did this interview with my friend and associate Dr. Stanton Samenow, author of the now classic (and recently revised) Inside the Criminal … Continue reading
I see so many examples of spouses and partners who endure consistent and systematic meanness from their significant others. This pattern is more prevalent than you might think, and the clinical term for it is emotional abuse. There are a … Continue reading
In the wake of the Missouri grand jury decision not to indict a white police officer for killing a black man, websites such as HuffingtonPost.com are offering commentaries under the heading of “Black Voices.” This title really struck me — … Continue reading
When experiencing doubts about a relationship or marriage, here’s a question you might not have considered asking yourself: Does the existence of my relationship/marriage make my life better than it otherwise would be? It’s so easy to lose perspective; to … Continue reading
If you wonder why things won’t change whether Republicans (as we know them) or Democrats are in charge, consider the following, quoted from Associated Press and Newsmax.com (on 11-20-14): Responding to a national backlash over Common Core education standards, potential … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd: I enjoyed your article “Owning Your True Feelings..” regarding passive-aggressive behavior. In the last paragraph, you wrote: “You can’t change passive-aggressive people, but you can make it a lot harder for them by being forthright and direct. … Continue reading
If you think about it, Obama has Congressional Republicans — who vow to “fight” his unilateral action making current illegal immigrants legal citizens — right where he wants them. For an explanation, conmpare and contrast Obama’s attitudes and actions with … Continue reading
Here’s a question people ask too infrequently in the area of romantic love: Do I admire and respect my partner/spouse? We are all taught that love means warmth, support, and sex. Of course romantic love does include these things. But … Continue reading
Barely a day goes by when someone doesn’t ask, “How are you feeling?” Given all this concern (sincerity notwithstanding…), it seems like “feeling good” should be the primary goal of our human experience. But in fact it’s not. Think about … Continue reading
It’s amazing how few people really seem to grasp the magnitude of Obama’s willful abuse of executive power. However unintentionally, this recent article in The Washington Post reveals a lot of the reason why. President Obama’s expected action lifting the … Continue reading
A reader is seeking “closure” from his girlfriend who recently dumped him; closure meaning a neat, painless ending that might come anyway with the passage of time. But time can’t be rushed, and closure can’t be faked or forced. People … Continue reading