According to Punxsutawney Phil’s observations last week, the pleasures of summer are just around the corner. So it might seem kind of silly to write a column about smiling. But after doing what I do for almost 30 years, I … Continue reading
Dear Dr. Hurd, My father died almost 18 years ago. Though I consider myself fully recovered, if something reminds me of him, the feelings of loss come rushing back and I get very sad and cry. Is this healthy? Do … Continue reading
One of the biggest mistakes parents make is to tell their kids to not get “a big head” — implying, in so many words, “Don’t think too much of yourself.” Then, years later, they’re surprised when their children lack the … Continue reading
After practicing psychotherapy professionally for almost 30 years, one can’t help but notice patterns. Problems may take different forms, but the core issues often fall into just a few categories. Life doesn’t need to be as hard as some people … Continue reading
In my 30+ years talking to people professionally, I have discovered that most people’s fears are not rational, i.e., not based on facts. Most fear results in nothing more than avoidance just for the sake of avoidance. “If I avoid … Continue reading
My daily experience repeatedly debunks the myth that good relationships require constant work. Good relationships already work well, because each partner is getting what he or she wants. Anyone in a happy, mutually satisfying relationship will tell you that he … Continue reading
After a holiday, clients occasionally admit to me that interactions with family, grown children, aging parents and old friends were often tinged with guilt. In spite of all the jokes (“What? You can’t call your mother once in a while? … Continue reading
How many times have we heard people say, “It’s all ego.” Or, “He did it out of ego.” Or worse yet, “I don’t want this to be about ego. I want it to be about something better, or higher.” All … Continue reading
In spite of all the political rhetoric about bullying going on here in Delaware, the subject still hits a little close to home. A good friend confided to me that his son – a smart, gentle and pleasant 11-year-old, was … Continue reading
I used to love the annual “Peanuts” comic strip where Lucy Van Pelt suffered from “Post-Christmas Letdown” over gifts she wanted but didn’t get. In like fashion, the holidays are over, but the sad remnants still linger some of us. … Continue reading
The new year brings all sorts of resolutions and promises, and one of the most popular is to get things clean and in order. People often ask me if it’s obsessive or neurotic to enjoy cleaning, and I have good … Continue reading
Several months ago I was sitting at a red light when a large pickup truck sped by — on the shoulder, around stopped cars – and ran the light. He never looked. He never slowed down. This is not a … Continue reading