I have to admit that I’m a private person. Though I enjoy and welcome the opportunity to interact personally with so many people, I also like quiet and a bit of solitude when the day is finished. What started this … Continue reading
Over 30 years of talking to people about problems related to their childhood has taught me a lot about what kids need and what they got – or didn’t get (emotionally speaking) – from their parents. It’s a challenge to … Continue reading
A reader tells me that her sister leaves her kids alone at all hours, speaks rudely to them, feeds them fast food every day, and then is resentful when they don’t appreciate her. The reader asks if the kids automatically … Continue reading
A University of Wisconsin-Madison imaging study shows the brains of people with generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) have weaker connections between a brain structure that controls emotional response, and the amygdala, which plays a key role in the processing of emotions. … Continue reading
The change of seasons is often an occasion for people to organize their schedules and prioritize their goals. But some tell me that they sometimes make their schedules too inflexible. It is true that an organized schedule reflects an organized … Continue reading
There’s a saying that suggests that you should never do business with friends. I received an email from a reader who did business here locally with a friend, and now there are problems with the expensive item she purchased. The … Continue reading
Many people are under the impression that they can avoid trouble in their relationships by not fighting. They mistakenly assume that the absence of fighting – or any disagreement – is an indication that the relationship is healthy. But that … Continue reading
It’s a rare day when a client doesn’t ask me about kids and responsibility about money matters. I’m in the interesting position of having talked to thousands of people about their childhoods while simultaneously observing how they now live their … Continue reading
One of the questions I regularly encounter in my office is how a person can approach a loved one or a friend about their drinking without the loved one or friend going on the defensive. Years ago, one of those … Continue reading
A Delaware Coast Press reader writes that he and his wife recently retired to a beautiful home by the beach. But in spite of that, he is not happy. It doesn’t have to do with anything specific; things are fine … Continue reading
I see many examples of spouses and partners who endure consistent and systematic meanness from their significant others. This pattern is more prevalent than you might think, and the clinical term for it is emotional abuse. There are a number … Continue reading
Will Rogers said: “Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.” And it’s true. In my experience, much of this spending, buying and impressing comes from one thing: … Continue reading