I hear it every day: ‘A good marriage requires hard work and compromise.’ ‘The secret of our relationship is’ sacrifice.’ Blah, blah. Well, I have a different take on the subject. It’s not that I’m against compromise altogether. Life as … Continue reading →

A woman who visited the beach this summer sent me an email in which she admits that she constantly feels jealous and threatened by her boyfriend’s popularity with other people, especially women. She goes on to say that it’s painful … Continue reading →

As kids begin to settle into the school year, the subject of bullying inevitably comes up. Parents, teachers and kids ask me what makes bullies act the way they do. Well, there are competing theories, and I could probably write … Continue reading →

I’ve always liked the old proverb, ‘If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there.’ Whenever I hear it, I immediately want to follow it up with something like, ‘So you’d better be ready for whatever … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd: I saved your article from last year about facts vs. fears. I still read it from time to time, but I can’t seem to get past my biggest fear: Flying in an airplane. Every little bit of … Continue reading →

‘An apology is a good way to have the last word.’ If this old saying is true, then why is it difficult for many people to apologize—even when they know they’re wrong? I believe a lot of the problem starts … Continue reading →

Though it sounds sort of magical and mysterious, the ‘power of suggestion’ can often be a part of your everyday life. For example, let’s say you mistakenly drink a caffeinated beverage close to bedtime, but don’t realize it until the … Continue reading →

Dear Dr. Hurd, My sister is a Catholic. Several years ago she married a wonderful man who happens to be Jewish. I don’t think I’ve ever known a happier couple—until now. She is pregnant, and they’ve started to argue constantly … Continue reading →

I’d like to take a moment to thank those readers who email, call or write with comments and questions. As an example, every summer season I receive a significant number of requests from local readers to reprint this particular column … Continue reading →

After much study and research, I have come to the conclusion that there are basically two types of people in the world. The first are the people who can’t stand to move their car from a parking space until they … Continue reading →

It amazes me how people can act like smart consumers in some situations, and like helpless pawns in others. Consider the way most of us handle the news—especially television news. I’m not talking about political bias here. I’m talking about … Continue reading →

I received an anxious email from a reader who is seeking ‘closure’ from his girlfriend who recently dumped him. A vague (but popular) concept, ‘closure’ means seeking a neat, painless ending—along with the cool, detached perspective of time. Unfortunately, time … Continue reading →