Clients and friends often express their desire to become a therapist. One friend in particular is interested in childhood trauma and its possible connection to post traumatic stress disorder. He says that he comes from a family of alcoholism and … Continue reading
Author Archives: DrHurd
The ‘It’s Not My Fault’ President
A growing trend in our society is the refusal to take responsibility for one’s actions. It’s easier to put the spotlight or blame on somebody or something else — anything but oneself. The perfect “leader” for such a culture is … Continue reading
Minimum Wage Means a Minimum Economy
Imagine if the government passed a law making low-paying jobs illegal. Let’s say any job paying less than $10 an hour is now illegal. Would you support such a law? Why or why not? If you opposed such a law, … Continue reading
Obamacare: What’s In It For Me?
1) Taking half a day off work to attend a mandated meeting (required to stay insured) to inform me of new forms, new rules, new paperwork, new requirements; 2) Higher premiums; 3) Same or even less coverage than before. All … Continue reading
Would You Keep Your Job Even if You Didn’t Need the Money?
Hi Dr. Hurd, I was visiting my chiropractor yesterday. Not sure how we got around to the topic, but I posed the question if she had millions of dollars, would she still work and be a chiropractor. Her answer was … Continue reading
“If You Love Me, You’ll Be Miserable for Me”
Love is not sacrifice. When you love someone, you want them to be happy; not miserable. When you love someone, you want them to do something for you because they want to, not because it’s a sacrifice. You want their … Continue reading
Out of the Sexual Comfort Zone
A reader writes: My husband and I have been together for 17 years. I gained some weight over the last few years and our physical relationship became almost nonexistent. We are still very close; we cuddle and say nice things, … Continue reading
Success is Damn Hard (DE Coast Press)
I’ve always liked the saying, “If it were easy, everybody would be doing it.” Sadly, the natural response to that is often, “Well, it must be nice to have… [whatever you earned that they resent your having earned].” A successful … Continue reading
State of the Union? Or State of the American Psyche?
The headlines on CNN and elsewhere proclaim: “This year’s State of the Union Address is a defining test for Obama.” Blah, blah, blah. For more substantive analysis, let’s consider the latest Wall Street Journal/NBC News poll. (Remember that these polls … Continue reading
Finding the Therapist of Your Dreams (DE Wave)
People often ask me how they can find a skilled and effective therapist in their area. Of course, I see this as an ideal way to promote my most recent book, “Bad Therapy, Good Therapy (And How to Tell the … Continue reading
Life, Liberty and Food Stamps for the Middle Class
In a first, working-age people now make up the majority in U.S. households that rely on food stamps — a switch from a few years ago, when children and the elderly were the main recipients. Some of the change is … Continue reading
The Hazards of Unsolicited Advice-Giving
A reader writes: What does it say about a person who is prone to offering others unsolicited advice without a polite prompting of the shift of conversation? And why would the object of that unsolicited advice be understandably offended when … Continue reading