…times means accepting blame, is key to a healthy mind. But shame, guilt or regret is only rational when hard facts and evidence back them up. At the root, the shamer/blamer appeals to your insecurity, low self-esteem, or an unhealthy need to be liked. These are errors and weaknesses. Don’t let the worst people appeal to the worst within you. Stand up for yourself and demand that people provide proof for what they claim, and skip the psychological… Continue reading
…elf-responsible and productive people Happy Unearned Guilt Day. Don’t feel regret or remorse for your achievements. Don’t lose sight of what you may yet achieve. Don’t succumb to envy, as the Pope encourages, because envy means hatred of success and achievement. If you train yourself to hate another’s capacity for success, you will ultimately hate your own. If you respond to the best within yourself, then you’re worthy enough to embrace life fully… Continue reading
…vial reason, you might back away from them without really knowing why, and regret it later. Conversely, if someone betrays you over something important, you’re lost without a set of conscious convictions to guide you; so you might stay in the relationship longer than you should, bolstered only by the vague notion that “This person has been in my life, and I shouldn’t change that now.” Living by a set of conscious convictions and principles grants… Continue reading
…onest, then you expect him — when confronted — to feel shame, humiliation, regret or something that will somehow get him to become honest. But that’s not the case. You cannot encounter someone whose values or programming are totally different from your own, and expect them to respond like you respond. They’re not the same person as you! On the social level, the law of unintended consequences comes out every time people support a social program tha… Continue reading