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Passive Anger is the Worst Kind (DE Wave)

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…omewhere, and then never shows up, or gets there an hour late. He shows no regret. Situations such as these characterize passive-aggressive behavior. The syndrome is defined by the National Institutes of Health as ”a chronic condition in which a person seems to passively comply with the desires and needs of others, but actually passively resists them, becoming increasingly hostile and angry.’ The definition gets even more familiar: ‘People with th… Continue reading →

Enough of the Chronic Complainers!

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…e ‘burden’ of having to choose—and no matter what they choose, they always regret it and you will always hear about it. They blame their dissatisfaction not on their own erroneous choices, but on the fact that they are required to make choices at all. And then they are the first, and the loudest, to complain whenever choices are restricted. They’re the type who never take the time to consider supply and demand, and how prices are determined by a v… Continue reading →

Is Arguing Healthy? (Delaware Wave)

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…rguments will happen, and the key is to not say hostile things that you’ll regret. Hurtful words cannot be taken back. Viewed in hindsight, there can be some advantages. A key example would be a mistaken assumption that your partner has about what you feel. Careful listening will allow you to say, ‘I listened to you, and I believe you’re operating on some mistaken assumptions about what I think, feel and do. May I tell you what those are?’ You can… Continue reading →

The Only Case for Self-Awareness You’ll Ever Need

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…lly in your mind—compelling or prodding you to do or say something you now regret—then you were quite literally asleep at the wheel. Historically, people look for arbitrary or out-of-context rules to tell them how they should live. Don’t eat pork, for example. Or have sex, but only after a government- or church-sanctioned ceremony takes place. Or appeal to a supernatural being for the answers, to come to you by magic. This is what passes for moral… Continue reading →

Think before you speak (Delaware Wave)

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…ularly important with email, texting and all that. People tell me of their regret over sending emotional emails to personal or business associates. ‘I wish I had worded it differently,’ they lament. ‘Now it’s engraved in stone.’ Email offers instant gratification in an age of real (or imagined) ‘attention deficits.’ But instant gratification comes with a price. You could end up feeling foolish (at best), or (at worst) damaging a relationship. You… Continue reading →

Why Whole Foods CEO John Mackey Was Right to Call Obamacare “Fascist”

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…a poor word choice to describe our health care system, which I definitely regret. The term fascism today stirs up too much negative emotion with its horrific associations in the 20th century.’ Actually, he should have stuck to his guns. Objectively speaking, Obamacare is fascism. Economic fascism refers to government encouragement of the consolidation of big business, so that government may control it. A few favored by Big Government are permitte… Continue reading →

Following a Bloodbath, Some Thoughts on Forgiveness

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…refers to consistent behaviors, over a lengthy period of time, which prove regret by the guilty person. Words without actions do not constitute proof; nor do inconsistent, half-hearted behaviors designed merely to ‘look good.’ In the case of minor theft, objective proof of remorse refers to returning the stolen object (or equivalent) with interest (financial or otherwise) as defined by the victim or a court of law. In the case of marital infidelit… Continue reading →

Bringing Romantic Love Out of the Stone Age

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…o. Having you as a slave gives him power. If you satisfy his greed, you’ll regret it all your days. Possessiveness and jealousy are signs of predatory animality, hangovers from the cave.’ All too often individuals mistakenly label such ‘greed’ and possessiveness as selfishness. Precisely the opposite is true. Individuals with self-respect and self-esteem do not want to possess you. They want to share the experience of life with you, side by side,… Continue reading →

Rep. Allen West: My Kind of Politician

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…refused to back down. ABC News online reported the following: ‘No, I don’t regret [my comments] whatsoever,’ West told reporters at a news conference. ‘I’m not going to back down. I’m not going to be afraid about the fact that I called a spade a spade.” ‘At the turn of the century American communists renamed themselves progressives,’ West explained. ‘There’s a very thin line between communism, progressivism, Marxism, socialism or even as Mark Levi… Continue reading →

Character Therapy

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…to resolve these in haphazard fashion, often through behaviors you end up regretting, rather than tackling and looking at the questions or doubts consciously. What’s done is done. Now you have an opportunity to make it right. You have an opportunity to create a situation where you still look back on past actions with regret, but also as a turning point before you developed a better understanding and grasp of why you think what you do. Don’t dwell… Continue reading →

Some minds are beyond help

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…eryone else’s. To the criminal, the goal is to harm others. Any feeling of regret is not because he realizes that he was wrong; he only regrets not having done a better job at it — especially when he gets caught. Working for years with hard-core, violent criminals in a federal psychiatric institution, Dr. Samenow concluded that psychotherapy can perhaps challenge, but rarely change, the criminal mindset. To think that genuine criminals reform them… Continue reading →

Psychology Does Messed Up Celebrities No Favors

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…be he had enough of his television career and he wants a break. If he does regret all that he’s lost by shooting off his mouth, you can’t blame it on lack of ‘treatment’ when he has had access to unlimited treatment, anywhere, any time, and with any provider he desires. If treatment is all that someone acting foolishly requires, then Charlie Sheen, with all his money and participation in treatment, should be a very well man by now. I’m frankly sic… Continue reading →