A website fan sent me an interesting email. During a routine visit, he asked his family doctor what she would do if she suddenly had millions of dollars. Would she still work? Would she stop working? The doctor said she … Continue reading
Category: Life’s a Beach!
Is Loneliness all in Your Head? (DE Coast Press)
According to research reported by theguardian.com, loneliness can have dramatic consequences on one’s health. Feeling isolated from others can disrupt sleep, raise blood pressure, lower immunity, increase depression, lower subjective well-being and increase the stress hormone cortisol (at sustained high … Continue reading
The Perils of Trying to Control Others (DE Wave)
A reader sent me a comment about one of my recent columns where I suggested that the biggest mistake people make is to try to change others. She agrees that the choice of what to think and do will always … Continue reading
Should you listen to the voices in your head? (DE Coast Press)
During counseling sessions, people sometimes say that they expected me to yell at them. Do I look THAT mean in the picture on this page? I wonder what would give rise to such an expectation, other than the proliferation of … Continue reading
Who’s Pushing Your Buttons? (DE Wave)
We all know somebody who says, “He pushes my buttons.” Or “She knows how to manipulate me.” But what do these complaints actually mean? Steven Stosny, Ph.D. at psychologytoday.com [8-14-15] states that “Emotions move us.” Indeed, the Latin root of … Continue reading
How Confusion Can Be Helpful (DE Coast Press)
Do you sometimes feel anxious or uneasy? A persistent feeling of anxiety can sometimes stem from mental conflict brought about by trying to resolve two or more contradictory ideas. You might not even be aware of the cause, but if … Continue reading
“Rush” Is A State of Mind (DE Wave)
The long-awaited fall season is upon us! Locals (and smart vacationers) know that this is the time to enjoy everything we came here to enjoy. Whether you are a resident or just visiting, you probably came here because of a … Continue reading
Money in the Mix: Separate or Together? (DE Coast Press)
I often encounter couples who, even after many years of marriage, maintain separate finances and bank accounts. What makes certain couples reach the decision to handle money in this way? It all depends on the individuals involved. Some people like … Continue reading
To Spank or Not to Spank (DE Wave)
The subject of spanking children is a perpetually unresolved debate that stirs up a lot of emotion, but not a lot of reasoning. From a purely psychological point of view, however, there is compelling evidence as to why physical punishment … Continue reading
Doing Less Does Not Always Mean Less Stress (DE Coast Press)
Stress reduction isn’t necessarily about doing less. In fact, many people become depressed or anxious simply because they don’t have enough to do. Ask anyone trying to adjust to retirement! It really boils down to what you do with what … Continue reading
Lying can be a full-time job (DE Wave)
A website visitor tells me that he has been unemployed for four years. He goes on to say, “My odds of finding a job seem to decrease as time passes. A friend has offered to compose a fake resume and … Continue reading
Politics Got You Down? (DE Coast Press)
A Delaware Coast Press reader writes that she disagrees with some of her friends regarding the upcoming election. Because of her frustration over what they say and think, she has become disgusted and withdrawn. She says that if she disconnects … Continue reading