‘Get your priorities in order.’ We’ve all heard it before, and it’s good advice. But it’s not just a one-time thing. Sometimes, especially after a crisis or difficulty, we have to recommit to, and maybe even restructure, our priorities. It … Continue reading
Category: Life’s a Beach!
“Owning” your true feelings in the face of confrontation
Do any of these situations sound familiar? 1. A friend assures you that he’s happy to help you with something, and asks that you please let him call you back in about an hour—at which time you never hear from … Continue reading
Does it really matter what other people think?
A Wave reader from Selbyville writes, Dear Dr. Hurd, I liked the article on your web site about comedian Wanda Sykes’ remark, ‘The older I get, the less I care’about a LOT of things!’ In school and in church, … Continue reading
True hypocrisy is a stressful, full-time job
A Wave reader in Millville writes: Dear Dr. Hurd, I strive to live up to the ideals you promote in your articles. I proudly quote some of your expressions about lying, overeating, rudeness, boundaries, keeping promises, and the like. … Continue reading
Objective facts and self-esteem are the enemies of gossip
Nobody wants to be known as a gossip. But, let’s face it: One way or another, many of us engage in gossip to some degree. Even if you never open your mouth, you’re contributing to gossip if you patronize (or … Continue reading
Are you an outlaw? Resort living takes a special kind of person
This article originally appeared in the January 25, 2006 issue of The Wave. It is being reprinted in response to your many kind requests. I reconnected recently with an old friend whom I had not seen for over 20 … Continue reading
What you feel is what you want
A Wave reader in Ocean View writes: Dear Dr. Hurd, I took the advice in your column from last March about being resilient in the face of hardship. It has improved my attitude about everyday ups and downs, … Continue reading
Cheapness is often about fear and control
A Wave reader in Ocean Pines writes: Dear Dr. Hurd, I saved your column from last year about how to handle money problems in a relationship. Your insight is most valuable, but my problem goes further than that. … Continue reading
What’s the best way to console a grieving friend?
There are few situations more awkward than trying to comfort a friend who has lost a loved one. What can you say? More importantly, what do they WANT you to say? I hear it all the time: ‘I don’t … Continue reading
Bad moods might not be so bad after all
Do you remember mood rings? Back in the ’70s, everyone seemed to be sporting a mood ring, or a mood pendant, or mood earrings, bracelets or even mood lipstick! I’ll get the science out of the way quickly: The gadgets … Continue reading
A happy life can be a risky business
Why are some people inclined to jump out of airplanes, or risk thousands of dollars in the stock market—while others find it difficult just to meet or talk to new people? Why do some of us avoid risk at all … Continue reading
Your time is valuable–spend it wisely
Like an old friend who visits every so often, it’s time to say goodbye to summer. For our seasonal visitors, parting will be sad. The bright, salty days on the beach and the freedom from daily routine will certainly be … Continue reading