A visitor to my web site wrote and asked me why I considered the killer in last month’s Virginia Tech shooting spree to be ‘incapable of benefiting’ from psychotherapeutic help. She was surprised that I, as a therapist, would not … Continue reading →

One of the highlights of my weekly routine is the quiet morning where I get to sit down with a cup of coffee and confront my glowing—yet still blank—computer screen. As it stares back at me, I know what it … Continue reading →

Last week, a friend told me about an experience she had at a local fast-food eatery. While standing in line, she was engaged in conversation with an elderly friend who was seated. Their voices were somewhat raised due to the … Continue reading →

  A Wave reader in South Bethany writes, Dear Dr. Hurd, I’ve always been told that it’s wrong, bad and emotionally harmful to hate. But, as I read the news and watch the goings-on in this world, it’s getting harder … Continue reading →

We hear over and over that ‘money is the root of all evil,’ or that ‘money can’t buy happiness.’ Yet, at the same time, money is a major part of our lives. Couples fight over money—in fact, I have read … Continue reading →

One of the complaints I often hear from people is that their spouses, family members or close friends accuse them of being ‘too sensitive.’ Though it is, admittedly, annoying to hear that from a loved one, is it possible, in … Continue reading →

‘You can’t do that! It’s not fair!’ ‘I never get a ‘fair shake!” How many times have we heard (and maybe even said) these things? When one is especially frustrated about the timing of events, or the pile-up of numerous … Continue reading →

  This article originally appeared in The Wave on September 28, 2005, and is being reprinted in response to your many kind requests. Cell phones, cell phones, cell phones! On the beach, the boardwalk, the highway, in the grocery store, … Continue reading →

Your emails and calls are always appreciated—and they remind me that there are people out there reading this column! That fact becomes even more evident when the occasional piece gets people a little stirred up—and apparently my article a few … Continue reading →

  I have to admit that I’m a private person. Though I enjoy and welcome the opportunity to interact personally with so many people, I also like to seek out some quiet and a bit of solitude when the day … Continue reading →

  A Wave reader in Frankford writes, Dear Dr. Hurd, Your response to the sister-in-law of the guy who drinks and smokes too much really got me thinking about myself. I also kind of overdue things (some legal, some not … Continue reading →

  A local friend (who originally introduced me to the idea of beach living) proudly declares: ‘Things are so peaceful around here, we don’t even lock our doors!’ For her, and many others, it seems to be a matter of … Continue reading →