An unknown, but apparently bitter person once wrote, ‘Valentine’s Day is when a lot of married people are reminded what a poor shot Cupid really is.’ Though that might be a bit overstated, there are certain conflicts in relationships that … Continue reading
Author Archives: D3 Support
Who Says The Truth Hurts?
People say “the truth hurts.” But which hurts more: Evasion of reality, or confrontation of reality as it is? Abusers of drugs and alcohol are evaders and deniers of reality. Are they really happier for their efforts? People who quit … Continue reading
Spending “Freeze” Means Spending Increases
Obama’s new budget, while calling for a phony “spending freeze” in actuality calls for spending increases in areas of education, biomedical research and high speed rail. This is because Obama judges these areas as important for the ability of the … Continue reading
House Republicans Use a Shovel Where Bulldozers are Needed
Unfortunately, the new Republican House of Representatives isn’t getting it right. Perhaps they mean well, but you cannot accomplish great things merely by meaning to do so. If the House leaders really wanted to change the direction of American politics … Continue reading
Thanks, Oprah
Partisanship, we’re told, is always wrong. What is “partisanship”? Superficially, it’s the difference between Republicans and Democrats. The deeper issue implied is: Principle. The assumption (a false one) is that Republicans and Democrats have different principles. It’s wrong to be … Continue reading
Addiction, contd.
A reporter wrote in and asked Dr. Hurd: Basically, my third part in this series focuses on care — and that’s a broad topic. The goal here is that somebody who might be going through addiction reads this, gets sound … Continue reading
Quitting Smoking? Beyond the B.S. of Doctors and Therapists
Q: What do you advise people who want to quit smoking? I successfully reduced the number of cigarettes from 22 to 6 a day, but now I am stuck and I can’t get any further. I would welcome your advice. … Continue reading
“Gotcha!”
Q: Dr. Hurd, can you please explain the psychology of “gotcha”? By this I mean the type of person who’s always ready to point out something you did wrong, or may have done wrong. I see it in the newspapers, … Continue reading
Self-esteem must be earned
Have you noticed how we humans tend to value something less if we didn’t work for it or earn it somehow? If you work hard for your car, your house, or success in your job, these things mean a lot … Continue reading
Governed by Those Who Don’t Know What They’re Governing
Obama says that the government can eliminate “burdensome” rules, but America’s businesses must recognize the “good” that regulations do. What is the standard of “good” here? Good to whom, and why? If regulations are good for businesses and customers, then … Continue reading
Love the Brainpower
“I love how your brain works!”
The Psychology of Snobbery
There are two ways to be an achiever. One type of achiever is trying to impress others; the other is simply trying to achieve. The second type gets more done. Why? Because his focus is exclusively on getting the job … Continue reading