In yesterday’s column, I wrote that love does not really require work — or the miserable sacrifices so many people claim. I received some interesting responses. One reader wrote: Good relationships require some self-sacrificial love. If the balance is off … Continue reading
Is your romantic relationship or marriage, on the whole, smooth and effortless? Or is there a constant sense of walking on eggshells, and trying not to offend the other? It’s a myth that good relationships take constant work. They don’t. … Continue reading
“Is this normal?” “Am I normal?” Psychotherapists hear this question all the time. The question is based upon a flawed premise and a flawed definition. Normal is not a substitute for “rational.” Normal refers to a statistical concept—essentially, to what … Continue reading
If you think our police have problems, take a look at academia. After all, this is where our top-level leaders — presidents, governors, mayors, senators — are trained. It’s where all the trouble starts. On 11/26/13, Daily Caller.com reported: “Racial tensions are inflamed … Continue reading
The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential… these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence. — Confucius
Obamacare relies heavily on Medicaid as a means to ensure universal coverage. Medicaid needs doctors, and to lure doctors into Medicaid, the Affordable Care Act temporarily increased reimbursement rates to doctors and hospitals — for 2013 and 2014 only. The … Continue reading
Hundreds of police officers outside the Queens, N.Y. church Saturday where the funeral of Officer Rafael Ramos was being held turned their backs on Mayor Bill de Blasio as he eulogized the fallen officer who was ambushed last week along … Continue reading
Changing negative first impressions is difficult. A person who forms a negative impression of another person will be less inclined to meet that person a second time because that person has been judged in a negative light. Without subsequent meetings, … Continue reading
Bloomberg News reported the following on December 25: Sony Pictures’ “The Interview,” the Seth Rogen comedy that sparked a cyber-attack linked to North Korea and threats of violence in theaters, filled cinemas in a limited Christmas Day release across the … Continue reading
Merry Christmas, happy holidays, and happy living all year long!
The conventional sentiment at holiday time is: “It’s so much better to give than to receive.” There’s an awful flaw, or contradiction, in this very statement. Think about it. It is possible to experience joy in giving … when you’re … Continue reading
You can’t change others. Neither can a psychotherapist, no matter how competent or insightful. Isn’t it still possible to influence others, if not change them? Absolutely. But successful “influence” presupposes that somebody is open to being influenced. Or, more specifically: … Continue reading