Most are thankful to God. I am thankful to man — specifically, to those individuals who (over the centuries) have created the countless things I need for survival and enjoyment: automobiles, plumbing, mass produced food, medicine, electricity, computers, televisions … … Continue reading
Author Archives: D3 Support
Can you assert yourself and be truthful at the same time?
‘Say what you mean, and mean what you say.’ This venerable and oh-so-true expression reveals a lot about the importance of integrity, honesty and keeping your word. It also says a lot about how to interact with others in your … Continue reading
The Competent Character
Q: Can a person be lacking in character and strong in competence? A: In certain respects, yes; but ultimately, no. Ultimately, low character will drive out and undermine competence. Imagine you have a car mechanic, or some other service professional, … Continue reading
How important is it to have “the perfect child”?
A Delaware Wave reader writes, Dear Dr. Hurd, I hate to admit this (that’s why I didn’t sign my name), but I feel like my kid’s mistakes and blunders (he is in second grade) are a reflection on me, … Continue reading
Coaching Feedback
“There are several things I like about your consultations. One, is that you seem to have the ability to separate the wheat from the chaff. Of course that’s your business but I bet it took effort and time to achieve … Continue reading
Stressed? Take a deep breath–but don’t forget to think
Deep breathing is an effective technique for relaxation. The influx of oxygen can be a good way to cope with stress, and it’s a lot less expensive and hard on your body than taking medication. At the same time, however, … Continue reading
Do you know why you do the things you do?
Everything we do, we do for a reason. All behavior, no matter how irrational or self-destructive it may seem, serves some kind of emotional purpose. It’s not that somebody “shouldn’t” be acting in a certain way; it’s that they ARE … Continue reading
How does it feel to be invisible?
It’s a rare dinner party or social event where somebody doesn’t ask me to tell them what subject spouses and couples complain about the most. I see so many problems: money, raising kids, in-laws (!)—it’s tough to nail it down … Continue reading
Transition isn’t failure, if it makes you happy
A Wave reader from South Bethany emails, Dear Dr. Hurd, My father used to tell me, “Don’t be a quitter.” But sometimes, when I’m trying to get something done, and I realize I’m fighting a losing battle, I feel … Continue reading
Opinions based only on emotions are meaningless
I heard an expression recently: “He never lets a fact get in the way of his opinion.” It got me thinking about why opinions get a bad name. People often say, with contempt, “She’s opinionated,” as if the expression of … Continue reading
Happiness should be the rule, not the exception
In his classic novel, ‘Trinity,’ author Leon Uris made a statement that really caught my attention. He wrote, ‘It seems that we have to have moments of turmoil to contrast with moments of peace in order to truly understand and … Continue reading
A child’s gratitude and respect is the reward for good parenting
An online Wave reader emails: Dear Dr. Hurd, My sister is not a good parent. There. I said it. In spite of leaving her kids alone at all hours, speaking rudely to them and feeding them fast food every … Continue reading