Reason, Fear and Independence

Ultimately reason, facts and logic are more powerful than fear. The fear only seems powerful, but it isn’t, and once you start to ‘get’ this, it becomes easier. Fear is an indicator that you are in danger—not necessarily physical danger, but that your values are in danger in some way. In many cases, for some people, fear is actually an indication of low self-regard. Your self-esteem is threatened because you might disappoint or displease someone. As your self-esteem gets stronger, by questioning and acting against these mistaken premises, the fear diminishes and in some cases goes away. This is the direct result of your continuing efforts to challenge and correct your mistaken premises, which often have to do with confusion over independence. Independence is primarily a psychological state, in which the individual is used to judging things for himself and ‘competing’ only with his own best standards. A dependent person “needs” others to, in effect, set the standards for him. The difference between an independent and dependent person is that the first has objectively grounded in facts, logic and reason. His automatic response in life isn’t, ‘What does he think of me?’ It’s: ‘What’s true? What’s correct? What makes sense?’