Being the victim means focusing on what others have done to you. Being a hero means focusing on what YOU can do to better your life, regardless of the circumstances beyond your control. Victims focus on the external. Heroes focus on the internal. We’re taught that heroes are selfless, but true heroes are in command of their minds and their destiny. Sometimes others benefit from their heroism, but that benefit is not the defining nature of heroism. It’s attitude and outlook that determine it.