Do What You Say, Not What They Say

Do what makes most sense to you. Try to base it on the facts, and on reason. Don’t be swayed by others–even family and friends. When influenced by them, try to examine their reasoning. Do their conclusions and recommendations follow from the facts you gave them? Are they leaving anything out? In the end, even a well-meaning friend or family member is telling you what HE or SHE believes he or she would do, in the same situation. It doesn’t mean they would do the same thing they recommend if they were in your situation, and it doesn’t mean you should do what they say. Do what makes sense to you. Try to be comfortable with the responsibility of choice. That’s how you build, and nourish, self-esteem.