“The three C’s of life: choices, chances and changes. You must make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change.”
— Zig Zigler.
If you don’t mix this into the equation, the result will be depression and no matter how much $$$ you spend, the psychiatric industry will not fix it.
The problem: People fail to make choices and take chances. Over time, the status quo of their lives becomes less and less satisfying.
This leads to a kind of listlessness or low motivation we call “depression.”
Once sad people get into this state (to any degree), they reach out and say, “Help me!”
But the only solution will be the one they had all along: Make choices, take chances. Don’t like the results of your previous or recent choices? That’s OK. Make new ones. Not sure which ones to make? Try new ones. Experiment.
Of course, once you’re depressed you’re less willing to take chances than ever before.
It’s tough, but the point here isn’t to shame or scold. It’s simply to state the truth.
You don’t help people by shielding them from the truth.
The truth: Your life is in your hands — and your hands alone.
It doesn’t mean you have to be alone. It doesn’t mean you can’t hire or find a person to coach you, give you some guidance or cheer you on.
But at the end of the day, you are the only one with yourself 24/7. You’re the only one who can possibly make new or different choices in your life.
Challenging the faulty thinking that got you here is how a useful confidante can help.
An unhappy life isn’t a disease to be cured by a pill or an external party, as the psychiatric industry tells us. An unhappy life is yours to fix.
Here’s one of the most beautiful quotes ever, by Randy Komisar: “And then there is the most dangerous risk of all — the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.”