“My bounty is as boundless as the sea, my love as deep. The more I give to thee, the more I have, for both are infinite.” — Shakespeare Shakespeare got it. Love is selfish. In other words, when you love … Continue reading
Shakespeare Got It
Author Archives: D3 Support
Appeasement in Our Time
President-elect Barack Obama is likely to create a new senior administrative post to work on bettering relations with Iran. The post will supposedly reduce the risk of nuclear war with Iran and pave the way for Obama and the Iranian … Continue reading
Facts Welcome Here
Facts won’t hurt you. They don’t bite. Sometimes facts aren’t pleasant. But they all must be faced and responded to. How can you respond to facts intelligently if you don’t know what they are? And aren’t they operating, in reality, … Continue reading
Choice Isn’t Optional
Being a grown-up means you get to make your own decisions. To independent types, this is welcome news. To others, it’s disturbing and profoundly frightening news. Too bad. Being a grown-up means you HAVE to make your own decisions. This … Continue reading
Mad About Success
You’re not entitled to success. How do I know this? Because there’s nobody doing the entitling. Success is not the result of some unseen Santa Claus giving it away. Success comes from effort, but it also comes from other things. … Continue reading
Is Arguing a Solution?
Dear Dr. Hurd: My wife and I argue a lot. It seems destructive in some ways. But we do make up in the end. I sometimes wonder if arguing is the only constructive way to solve problems. What do you … Continue reading
Beat shyness with an action plan
Does the thought of walking into a room full of strangers make you nervous? Do you feel like the ‘odd man (or woman) out?’ Well, you’re not alone. Shyness, and the anxiety that goes with it, is a common psychological … Continue reading
What A Therapist Is–And Isn’t
A therapist is not your doctor; a therapist is your guide. A therapist does not “do” something “to” you to make you better. A therapist goes with you–sometimes advising, sometimes guiding, sometimes simply being there. A therapist is not your … Continue reading
Nothing in Return?
“She did me this favor, expecting nothing in return.” Most of us consider this a GOOD thing. I don’t. If someone does something nice for me — free of charge, and not asking for an exchange — then I assume … Continue reading
Being Equal Doesn’t Mean Being Even
Being equal isn’t the same as being even. You can be equal in stature — though not in ability. The opportunity of freedom can be equal for everyone; but this does not guarantee (or require) equality of outcome. Many people … Continue reading
Friendship is Mutual
A friend is someone who, by definition, gives you benefit because of who he or she is. It’s not a tangible benefit — such as money, or property. A tangible benefit arises in a business transaction, not in a friendship … Continue reading
Where Greed Comes From
Greed doesn’t happen in a rational, self-responsible context. Greed happens in an emotional context of entitlement. “I should have this … I am entitled to this … I WILL have this!” Witness the feeding frenzy in Washington DC to bail … Continue reading