People ask: If rational self-interest is right and healthy, is it always wrong to help someone? Of course not. If you’re to help someone, (1) they should be of value to you, (2) you should be able to afford the … Continue reading
When to Help
Author Archives: D3 Support
How good is “good enough?”
A Delaware Wave reader emails that her father always cautioned her that ‘the grass is always greener,’ i.e., that she should always search for something better than what she already has. She wonders if endlessly searching for ‘something better’ could … Continue reading
Fact Therapy
When in doubt, or feeling troubled, go to the facts. When you are feeling something, write down the feeling. Then make yourself identify the facts that support the feeling (if any exist) and the facts that refute or contradict the … Continue reading
Error isn’t Failure
It’s helpful to distinguish between failing and merely making an error. The very word “fail” is toxic for many people. An honest error can take place through honest reasoning, but errors are almost always correctable. However, if your habitual internal … Continue reading
Pressuring Others
Does it ever make sense to pressure loved ones, or others, to do what you want? Pressuring is an ineffective thing, in most cases. In a few cases, maybe someone agrees with you about what their priorities should be, and … Continue reading
Success is Strength
A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him. — David Brinkley
Self-Responsibility and Empathy
The core of being self-responsible is managing your emotions. Managing your emotions means recognizing and accepting the premise that not all of your feelings are necessarily logical and based on facts. This recognition leads to a self-responsible habit of not … Continue reading
Two Takes on ADD
There are two ways to describe the same phenomenon or experience. One: “I tend to start one task before completing another. This annoys those around me as well as myself. Sometimes, there’s a rationale for what I’m doing. I could … Continue reading
Wrong Premises That Hamper Serenity
Wrong premise: Disappointments are disasters. Wrong premise: The risk of disappointment can never be outweighed by the possibility of happy outcome. Wrong premise: Life is a performance (for others) rather than a focused experience (for myself). These wrong premises contribute … Continue reading
Obama’s Oil-Free Utopia
“We’re dealing with a massive and potentially unprecedented environment[al] disaster. It could extend for a long time. It could jeopardize the livelihoods of thousands of Americans who call this place home.” This is the current American President talking about … … Continue reading
Thoughts on Stress
Stress is like spice. In the right proportion, it enhances the flavor of a dish. Too little produces a bland, dull meal. Too much may choke you. –Donald Tubesing, from “Kicking Your Stress Habits”
Quick Question
How does bankrupting the government replenish the wealth of the nation?