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"I Can" Comes Before "I Do"

Daily Dose of Reason - Psychology & Self-Improvement
  
Tuesday, 23 February 2010 00:00
justmarriedFinances and a general sense of overall “security” are THE reason people stay in unhappy marriages, in my experience. That’s why I believe it’s important to never marry someone (much less have children) until you can afford the lifestyle you want on your own. If marrying someone increases your lifestyle or income, that’s fine—since two incomes almost always do—but your life ought to be at a point where you know you can support yourself even if you didn’t have the marriage. Otherwise you’re trapped if the long-range relationship doesn’t work out, emotionally.
 

Empathy

Daily Dose of Reason - Psychology & Self-Improvement
  
Monday, 22 February 2010 00:00
questionmarksEmpathy is not something you feel on command. It's only something that you feel towards someone of value to you, in some context. You don't feel empathy for their sake. You feel empathy as a natural and logical outgrowth of the fact that you value this person -- and, therefore, you want to understand their point-of-view. If you don't experience empathy for those you care about, then, in essence, you don't sufficiently care about those you care about. Right there: the contradiction is your own. It's not that you're "selfish." It's really quite the opposite; you're not paying enough attention to those whom you supposedly value and want in your life.
 

America: Divided Within

Daily Dose of Reason - Society & Culture
  
Sunday, 21 February 2010 00:00

austinplanecrashirsQ: Regarding the man who drove his plane into the IRS building in Texas -- is this a valid way to protest Big Government?

A: Well, answer the question this way: How much closer are we to a limited government because of this incident? Not very -- and probably even further away, thanks to this incident. As more things like this happen, the more the left can say, "See? Anybody who opposes us is crazy." The important thing to remember about America is that we still essentially enjoy freedom of speech. In that regard, we are not China or Iran and we have not yet gone down that road. I have little doubt that some members of Congress, and maybe even the President himself, would just love to censor people if they thought they could get away with it. Senator Chuck Schumer comes to mind, who in the early days after Obama's election victory told the media that a restoration of the "fairness doctrine" against right-wing talk radio would likely be on the way. Nevertheless, we're not there yet, and I can imagine there would be huge protests if it ever came to that, based on the recent election in Massachusetts and the year-long opposition to ObamaCare that ultimately seems to have brought it down.

The man who ran his plane into the IRS building operated on two faulty premises: That life is hopeless, because of our crazy big government; and that he has a right to take others down with him. Neither of these premises are correct. We live under a crazy and dysfunctional Big Government, but not under a dictatorship -- and there's a difference. If he concluded that HIS life was hopeless, then he was entitled to take his own life quietly and without risking anyone else's well-being or safety. I maintain that life is not hopeless, and definitely not because of Big Government. This is because we still have freedom of speech, as I said, which means people who oppose big government, high taxes and the like are free to speak their minds and persuade others. The biggest problem so far is that no politicians in either party have yet shown the courage to reverse course on Big Government. It's going to happen sooner or later because the programs we have are going bankrupt and when the government becomes unable to pay Medicare and Social Security claims, there are going to be big problems. It would be much, much better if our elected leaders faced things sooner rather than later. They already have waited way too long and evaded the tough issues, in part because a majority of the American people themselves have done so. "I want my Big Government programs -- but I don't want Big Government!" has been the majority view for the last few decades.

Still, violence is not the answer. Violence isn't going to change a single mind. Violence only makes sense in the context of literal, physical self-defense. If our government crossed over into dictatorship and totalitarianism, then you'd have no choice but to defend yourself once the thought police came after you. But we're still free to protest peacefully, thanks to freedom of speech, and it's still possible to civilly and peacefully reverse course. As much as I blame our elected officials for so many of the disasters government has brought upon us, I still blame the majority of the American people most of all. Most either evade or allow themselves to remain unaware of the fact that you cannot have freedom and prosperity while, at the same time, expanding the welfare and regulatory state. Case in point: Peggy Noonan, a perceptive and talented writer who does not intellectually grasp, but does sense, the nature of the crisis in America wrote the following in The Wall Street Journal: "The old vote themselves benefits that their children will have to pay for. What kind of a people do that?" She nailed it, right there. If America consists of a majority of people who are prepared to vote away the individual rights of others, while still demanding their own -- then the majority deserve what's happening, and what's coming. They don't need a terrorist to crash a plane into a building because they're going to live see much worse, and it will be their own evasion and lack of integrity that brought it about.

Socialism AND capitalism -- arbitrary rule over others AND individual freedom -- simply cannot coexist in the same society. Flying airplanes into IRS offices isn't going to bring any clarity to this fundamental contradiction which a majority still hold in their minds. Logic and reason can, and will -- if and when more people start to think.

 

How Not to Talk

Daily Dose of Reason - Psychology & Self-Improvement
  
Saturday, 20 February 2010 00:00
relpolA good, principled way to cut off political (or similar) discussion: "You're not going to convince me; so we might as well talk about something else." Reasonable people accept this because, as reasonable people they understand that conclusions cannot be forced -- they can only be attained through thinking for oneself. Unreasonable people will refuse to accept this, or only "accept" it in the context of a snide comment. In so doing, they reveal something about themselves: That they don't reach their own conclusions by reason. So, on this subject at least -- who needs them?
 
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